Many of the people who come through our doors at the Breastfeeding Resource Center are parents of newborns. They are strong, persistent, and dedicated to doing the best they can for their babies. But, even super heroes can use some help.
How can we as a community help families who recently welcomed a new baby to their family? I’ve spoken to many parents who agree that very specific offers make accepting help easier. As well intentioned as an open ended “let me know if you need anything!” is, it may be difficult for a tired, fuzzy minded individual to articulate what he or she needs.
10 Things to Say to Parents and Caregivers of Babies
- “I can hold your baby while you rest for an hour!”
- “Me and your five friends have set up a meal train for you – would you like your dinners delivered to your porch five days in a row or every other day?”
- “I’ll bring <older sibling> in the backyard for an hour so he/she gets some play time and you get some one on one time with baby!”
- “I’ve hired a house cleaner for you, just call to schedule – or I can call!”
- “Can I braid your hair for you so its out of your way for a few days?
- “I’ve hired a postpartum doula for you, here’s the contact info – just reach out when you’re ready.”
- “Here are some snacks and meals you can prep and eat with one hand.”
- “Wow, what a generous pile of baby clothes! Let me help sort them for you (and maybe give them a quick wash)!”
- “Is there a pile of laundry I can throw in the washer for you?” “Are there clothes I can fold for you?”
- “I know you have received lots of blankets and clothes as gifts, so I’m bringing diapers instead!”
If being the recipient of help makes you cringe, leave a note on the refrigerator of things that need to be done. Your guests can refer to it without you having to verbally address them.
There’s a reason the saying “it takes a village” – May you be inspired to offer help to a superhero this Mother’s Day!
Honor the mothers in your life today with a gift in their name to the BRC. Your donation will allow us to continue to provide a community for new families and babies along with life-changing lactation consultations for everyone. Click here to give!
Thank you to all caregivers that have been there and helped with the ideas included in this list!